Good morning wonderful people of the internet community. Welcome back for another session with yours truly. I have so much to express about today’s topic that I decided to make it a two week series.
How many of you HONEST blog fanatics are guilty of price tag dating? I will be the first to admit to it. Is it so wrong? For those who are unaware of price tag dating, let me break it down. By definition (my definition of course), price tag dating is 1) the value of a person’s worth which can benefit you while dating; 2) involves the “popping tag” syndrome on the behalf of the other party; 3) dating someone for an economic advantage that will contribute to your social well being. (Note: Webster should definitely be paying me for these definitions) I actually have a couple more descriptions but for the sake of time I will spare everyone. I believe most of us are price tag dater’s now then before. Let’s look a little deeper.
Back in the day, around our teenage years, women were known for price tag dating. Come on ladies; remember talking to that guy because of the car he drove or if he had the new pair of J’s. Maybe it was because of his social worth like because he was the star basketball or football player at school. Most guys only cared about ass and tits in high school, and to a certain extent, majority of men still only care about that. You were young and it was just a phase right? WRONG!!! You still do it today, but it is kind of generally accepted now on both women and men part.
I think it is safe to say that most of us are planning for our future. Time is money, and no one really wants to talk to anyone who is a waste of time. So what do we find ourselves doing before we seriously start talking to someone? You got it!!! Valuing their worth. Does he/she have a college degree? Where is this person going in life? What is her/his occupation? Before you know it, we have successfully come to a rough potential worth for this person. We all do it, but why do we do it? Why not throw all that out of the window and just talk to someone based solely on them? Separate their occupation and what they do for a living away from their social life. I think that’s enough for today. Next week will feed off this but in another area of price tag dating.
Be productive, Be persistent, Be prudent.
WORD OF THE DAY!!!
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Tuesday, June 24, 2008
Friends Dating Your Ex
Heeeeellloooo new world!!! How are you?? Man it feels so good outside today. The heat has been blazing lately. I think a cool day is way past due, so thank you God! Today, I can honestly say I was not prepared for a topic today. That's when comments and ideas from you all come in handy. Today's topic was suggested by a faithful reader. So you can thank him for this one. (I'll let him reveal himself, if he wants)
I sure everyone has really close friends. Most of us have best friends, which is very common. (Shoutout to my best friend's...Charlie Bmore, Kp, Dough Boy and BJ) A good friend is just as hard as trying to find that perfect woman/man. Best/Good friends have a huge responsibility to you. They are suppose to always be there for you; looking out in your best interest. So how would you feel if one of your friends started dating one of your ex's?
There has always been this unwritten rule (Man/Woman Law) about talking to your friends past flames. I think the men rule book is more flexible than a woman's rule book. I mean you have clearly moved on from your past. You have been in a 2 year relationship with your new girlfriend/boyfriend, and you just found out your good friend is talking to your ex. Should you even care? You heard the news from everyone except from the two people you thought would say something. (Your good friend and the ex) How big of an issue is this?
I believe women are touchier about matters like this. Men are too, but they tend not to care because of how their "mans" will view them. "Stop trying to save her man", is a common statement. (For some reason men fold to pure pressure more than women) With all the pressure put aside, exactly how difficulty is it for you to see one of your close friends talking to your ex? Would y'all even be friends anymore? There is kind of a gray line with this subject. Some people can handle it while others can't. Maybe someone should update this unwritten rule book. Enjoy the rest of your week.
Be productive, be persistent, be prudent.
WORD OF THE DAY!!!!
mag·nan·i·mous - very generous, kind, or forgiving
I sure everyone has really close friends. Most of us have best friends, which is very common. (Shoutout to my best friend's...Charlie Bmore, Kp, Dough Boy and BJ) A good friend is just as hard as trying to find that perfect woman/man. Best/Good friends have a huge responsibility to you. They are suppose to always be there for you; looking out in your best interest. So how would you feel if one of your friends started dating one of your ex's?
There has always been this unwritten rule (Man/Woman Law) about talking to your friends past flames. I think the men rule book is more flexible than a woman's rule book. I mean you have clearly moved on from your past. You have been in a 2 year relationship with your new girlfriend/boyfriend, and you just found out your good friend is talking to your ex. Should you even care? You heard the news from everyone except from the two people you thought would say something. (Your good friend and the ex) How big of an issue is this?
I believe women are touchier about matters like this. Men are too, but they tend not to care because of how their "mans" will view them. "Stop trying to save her man", is a common statement. (For some reason men fold to pure pressure more than women) With all the pressure put aside, exactly how difficulty is it for you to see one of your close friends talking to your ex? Would y'all even be friends anymore? There is kind of a gray line with this subject. Some people can handle it while others can't. Maybe someone should update this unwritten rule book. Enjoy the rest of your week.
Be productive, be persistent, be prudent.
WORD OF THE DAY!!!!
mag·nan·i·mous - very generous, kind, or forgiving
Wednesday, June 18, 2008
Black Women Might Be Out of Style
Good morning everyone. It has been a very long and depressing two days for me but I have reached the middle of the week. Thank God! The weekend is just around the corner.
Black women are out of style. Pretty bold statement to make. I was having a conversation with one of my best friends when she made this statement. (To all those who think I like to bash women, HA! It was me, lol) When I first heard what she said I was thinking to myself she isn't serious. I mean we joke all the time when we talk, but I could hear the concern in her voice when she repeated herself. We were having a talking about being single and she was pitching the ideal that black women, like herself, are single because they are not in style anymore. More so, they are not appealing to black men anymore.
I gave it a second thought and didn't really come to an answer, but I could see where she was coming from. Just going through my top ten fantasy women, which has been altered several times, 7 of the women are not black. They are either mixed or a completely different race. I have no problem with interracial compatibility. You fall for a person because who they are not because of their skin color. The statement wasn't made as a racial issue, but to open my eyes to a realistic sincere concern. So what is it that leaves most black women single?
I have plenty of beautiful strong black female friends, that I think are a great catch, but majority of them are single. Some of them are single by choice, whereas, the others just haven't found what they want in a man. But have men (ALL men...Black, White, Hispanic, whatever) stop looking black women way? Let me rephrase that, because black women always get a look from a man because they are built like no other. So have black women been put on the back burner when it comes to seeking a relationship?
I guess the same question could be asked about a good man. Women say all the time, "good men are so hard to find". That's BS! We are out here, women just choose to go the opposite direction. Then after they decide they want a good man, after all the other fools, they can't be found. He is gone. One reason might be because you faked and now someone else picked him up (possibly outside their race) or two, this good man isn't trying to be Mr. Picker Upper after you have been hurt. (This usually what happens) The two can go hand and hand. So let me know what you think. Are black women really becoming a thing of the past? As always...be productive, be persistent, be prudent. The floor is open....Enjoy the rest of your week!
Black women are out of style. Pretty bold statement to make. I was having a conversation with one of my best friends when she made this statement. (To all those who think I like to bash women, HA! It was me, lol) When I first heard what she said I was thinking to myself she isn't serious. I mean we joke all the time when we talk, but I could hear the concern in her voice when she repeated herself. We were having a talking about being single and she was pitching the ideal that black women, like herself, are single because they are not in style anymore. More so, they are not appealing to black men anymore.
I gave it a second thought and didn't really come to an answer, but I could see where she was coming from. Just going through my top ten fantasy women, which has been altered several times, 7 of the women are not black. They are either mixed or a completely different race. I have no problem with interracial compatibility. You fall for a person because who they are not because of their skin color. The statement wasn't made as a racial issue, but to open my eyes to a realistic sincere concern. So what is it that leaves most black women single?
I have plenty of beautiful strong black female friends, that I think are a great catch, but majority of them are single. Some of them are single by choice, whereas, the others just haven't found what they want in a man. But have men (ALL men...Black, White, Hispanic, whatever) stop looking black women way? Let me rephrase that, because black women always get a look from a man because they are built like no other. So have black women been put on the back burner when it comes to seeking a relationship?
I guess the same question could be asked about a good man. Women say all the time, "good men are so hard to find". That's BS! We are out here, women just choose to go the opposite direction. Then after they decide they want a good man, after all the other fools, they can't be found. He is gone. One reason might be because you faked and now someone else picked him up (possibly outside their race) or two, this good man isn't trying to be Mr. Picker Upper after you have been hurt. (This usually what happens) The two can go hand and hand. So let me know what you think. Are black women really becoming a thing of the past? As always...be productive, be persistent, be prudent. The floor is open....Enjoy the rest of your week!
Friends Dating My Ex...
Heeeeellloooo new world!!! How are you?? Man it feels so good outside today. The heat has been blazing lately. I think a cool day is way past due, so thank you God! Today, I can honestly say I was not prepared for a topic today. That's when comments and ideas from you all come in handy. Today's topic was suggested by a faithful reader. So you can thank him for this one. (I'll let him reveal himself, if he wants)
I'm sure everyone has really close friends. Most of us have best friends, which is very common. (Shoutout to my best friend's...Charlie Bmore, Kp, Dough Boy and BJ) A good friend is just as hard as trying to find that perfect woman/man. Best/Good friends have a huge responsibility to you. They are suppose to always be there for you; looking out in your best interest. So how would you feel if one of your friends started dating one of your ex's?
There has always been this unwritten rule (Man/Woman Law) about talking to your friends past flames. I think the men rule book is more flexible than a woman's rule book. I mean you have clearly moved on from your past. You have been in a 2 year relationship with your new girlfriend/boyfriend, and you just found out your good friend is talking to your ex. Should you even care? You heard the news from everyone except from the two people you thought would say something. (Your good friend and the ex) How big of an issue is this?
I believe women are touchier about matters like this. Men are too, but they tend not to care because of how their "mans" will view them. "Stop trying to save her man", is a common statement. (For some reason men fold to pure pressure more than women) With all the pressure put aside, exactly how difficulty is it for you to see one of your close friends talking to your ex? Would y'all even be friends anymore? There is kind of a gray line with this subject. Some people can handle it while others can't. Maybe someone should update this unwritten rule book. Enjoy the rest of your week.
Be productive, be persistent, be prudent. Oh, yea check out my new blog spot. (Address under my info section on my facebook profile) I will start posting new blogs up there as well in the future.
WORD OF THE DAY!!!!
mag·nan·i·mous - very generous, kind, or forgiving
I'm sure everyone has really close friends. Most of us have best friends, which is very common. (Shoutout to my best friend's...Charlie Bmore, Kp, Dough Boy and BJ) A good friend is just as hard as trying to find that perfect woman/man. Best/Good friends have a huge responsibility to you. They are suppose to always be there for you; looking out in your best interest. So how would you feel if one of your friends started dating one of your ex's?
There has always been this unwritten rule (Man/Woman Law) about talking to your friends past flames. I think the men rule book is more flexible than a woman's rule book. I mean you have clearly moved on from your past. You have been in a 2 year relationship with your new girlfriend/boyfriend, and you just found out your good friend is talking to your ex. Should you even care? You heard the news from everyone except from the two people you thought would say something. (Your good friend and the ex) How big of an issue is this?
I believe women are touchier about matters like this. Men are too, but they tend not to care because of how their "mans" will view them. "Stop trying to save her man", is a common statement. (For some reason men fold to pure pressure more than women) With all the pressure put aside, exactly how difficulty is it for you to see one of your close friends talking to your ex? Would y'all even be friends anymore? There is kind of a gray line with this subject. Some people can handle it while others can't. Maybe someone should update this unwritten rule book. Enjoy the rest of your week.
Be productive, be persistent, be prudent. Oh, yea check out my new blog spot. (Address under my info section on my facebook profile) I will start posting new blogs up there as well in the future.
WORD OF THE DAY!!!!
mag·nan·i·mous - very generous, kind, or forgiving
Monday, June 9, 2008
I Got My Swagger Back...Whatever that Is...
What's up everyone! It's another great day with me, Pierre aka Sk8bd P aka Mr. SirReal aka Mr. Deep Thought, aka ummm I don’t know, I ran out of ostentatious nicknames to make up. I'm in a real good mood today. Today I want to explore the idea of this thing call swagger and how it ties in with relationships. Shoutouts to Tiffany and Helen, this one is for y'all.
We hear it all the time now-a-days, more so from females describing a guy, "oh he has that swag." So I propose the question, what the hell is swag? A real answer too. "I can't explain it" or "he just has IT" just will not get it done. I have a sense of what girls are trying to say, but is there really a discrete definition? My perspective is that this swag really doesn't exist. Who's to say if a person has swag or not? Just because you might not think a certain person has swag, maybe they have swag to someone else. This just proves that swag is all a mindset description. Swagger is what you make it to be.
Swagger has it advantages, I guess. The most common example of swagger is Jay-Z. I think its safe to say, that Jigga is not the least bit attractive at all but his swagger has landed him with one of the most talented and beautiful woman on this earth. I not even hyping Beyonce, (I'm more of Rihanna groupie myself) but how and the hell did Jay get her? They have a solid relationship built around swagger. His swagger has Beyonce head over heels in love, even after he cheated. (Yea he did it, don’t fake.) But what if his swagger runs out. Will the love be strong enough to keep their relationship together?
Is it really safe to base a relationship around someone because of their swagger? I have come to the conclusion that most females attach this swagger idea with "no lives" and "hood stars." They are so quick to be on them because they have swag, yet they have no real job, no credit score, and no real aspirations. But for some reason they always get the girl. I'm not being sour about it, I'm just saying...it was his swagger that got you hooked, but I don't think swagger can cover a black eye. Females set themselves up for failure sometimes chasing this thing call swagger. So I ask you, does it really exist? The floor is now open. Have a great week!!!
We hear it all the time now-a-days, more so from females describing a guy, "oh he has that swag." So I propose the question, what the hell is swag? A real answer too. "I can't explain it" or "he just has IT" just will not get it done. I have a sense of what girls are trying to say, but is there really a discrete definition? My perspective is that this swag really doesn't exist. Who's to say if a person has swag or not? Just because you might not think a certain person has swag, maybe they have swag to someone else. This just proves that swag is all a mindset description. Swagger is what you make it to be.
Swagger has it advantages, I guess. The most common example of swagger is Jay-Z. I think its safe to say, that Jigga is not the least bit attractive at all but his swagger has landed him with one of the most talented and beautiful woman on this earth. I not even hyping Beyonce, (I'm more of Rihanna groupie myself) but how and the hell did Jay get her? They have a solid relationship built around swagger. His swagger has Beyonce head over heels in love, even after he cheated. (Yea he did it, don’t fake.) But what if his swagger runs out. Will the love be strong enough to keep their relationship together?
Is it really safe to base a relationship around someone because of their swagger? I have come to the conclusion that most females attach this swagger idea with "no lives" and "hood stars." They are so quick to be on them because they have swag, yet they have no real job, no credit score, and no real aspirations. But for some reason they always get the girl. I'm not being sour about it, I'm just saying...it was his swagger that got you hooked, but I don't think swagger can cover a black eye. Females set themselves up for failure sometimes chasing this thing call swagger. So I ask you, does it really exist? The floor is now open. Have a great week!!!
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